My brother, internationally acclaimed rock guitarist Robert Fripp, talks about performances.

“A principle is universal, a rule is inflexible, a law is invariable.  Music so wishes to be heard that sometimes it calls on unlikely characters to give it voice, and to give it ears. This wishing-to-be heard calls into existence the Performance Event: where music, musician, and audience may come together as one, in communion.

Robert Fripp Speaks

This communion has six different forms of being and experiencing itself; and these forms, or principles, are simultaneously present within the Performance.

The first three are:

When people get together with music, something happens.

In a performance: things come together, mysteriously; and go better than we might anticipate; and better than we deserve.

A performance can take on a life and character of its own.

In my world of speaking performances, like the enchanting world of music that my brother speaks of, there exists a profound and universal principle: the Performance Event. This principle, just like the soulful desire of music to be heard, underscores the magnetic pull of a message yearning to be shared, a story waiting to be told, and an idea eager to inspire.

It is within this Performance Event that great speakers, much like musicians, find themselves in a sacred communion with their audience, where the essence of communication transcends the spoken word, creating an experience that is both transformative and unforgettable.

This communion, as my brother tells us in his unique and articulate way, manifests in distinct forms of being and experiencing.

For speakers, these principles illuminate the path to delivering presentations that captivate and resonate with their audience.

The Power of Gathering: Just as when people come together with music something extraordinary happens, the same is true for speaking. The act of gathering for a presentation creates a unique energy, a collective anticipation for the ideas and insights that are about to unfold. This shared experience lays the foundation for a memorable event.

The Mystery of Synergy: In a performance, be it musical or speaking, elements come together in a way that often surpasses our expectations. This synergy, mysterious and potent, allows a presentation to transcend its components, delivering a message that is more impactful and enduring than anticipated. It’s a reminder that in the realm of public speaking, we are often graced with outcomes better than we might deserve.

The Emergence of Character: Much like a musical performance, a speaking event can take on a life and character of its own. This principle highlights the dynamic nature of presentations, where despite meticulous planning, the actual performance can evolve into something uniquely powerful, characterized by moments of spontaneity and genuine connection.

All the world is a stage.

These principles, drawn from the universal language of music, serve as a challenge for speakers who strive to deliver presentations that are heard and felt.

They remind us that at the heart of every speaking performance is the opportunity for communion, for a shared experience that transcends the ordinary, making every message memorable and unforgettable. This reminds me of my book title, Deliver Unforgettable Presentations.

“What an honor to watch true professional at work! Your presentation on Good to Great Presentations was stellar. Our audience of dental speakers was amazed and impressed at your ability to coach four other speakers. In a few minutes, you transformed their presentations. Your experience, knowledge, and ability show through everything you do. Thank you for accepting our invitation to open our conference. Nobody could have done better.” Vanessa Emerson, Founder, Dental Speaker Institute

Patricia Fripp , Darren LaCroix and Salve Sales Team.
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Recently, I had the pleasure of joining Derek Arden’s Monday Night Live chat show for his fourth-anniversary show.

Derek asked us all to give five ideas in five minutes. Alongside my esteemed colleagues Tim Durkin, Tracy Hooper, and Will Kintish, we embarked on a mission to distil our wisdom into five-minute nuggets. However, in a twist that would make a Hollywood scriptwriter proud, we opted for depth over breadth, each sharing a singular idea adorned with multiple examples.

The Power of No

The always gracious Tracy gave us elegant ways and words to handle those who inappropriately interrupted us.

Will, with a twinkle in his eye, shared his philosophy on the strategic deployment of “no” (grandchildren and dogs being the notable exceptions).

Like many of us, Tim Durkin receives multiple requests for advice, speeches, and contributions of time to local organizations, and he reminded us it’s tempting, almost reflexive, to say “yes.” But here’s the twist—every “yes” is a ticket to a hidden tax, a concept Tim brilliantly dubbed the “Yes Tax.” It’s the fine print that turns a simple nod into a marathon of unintended commitments.

This conversation was a delightful reminder of a principle I’ve championed when I used to teach Time Management: the sacred value of your time.

The Power of “No, and Yes”

In business, our time is as valuable as our contacts. How often have you said “yes” when you really wanted to say “no”? It may have seemed the most efficient, popular, or expedient choice at that moment…yet was often regretted afterward.

You don’t need to make any excuses for refusing a business proposal or social invitation. “No, thank you for asking, but I already have plans.” What you don’t have to explain is that your plans are with yourself.

Fortunately, there’s a way to say “no” and “yes” at the same time: Refuse the request, and offer an alternative that works for you and benefits the petitioner as well.

It has always been part of my overall marketing strategy to be well-known in my community. Business contacts and worthy causes often ask me to volunteer my time. Here’s how I handle it.

An organization asked me to run a luncheon once a month for their volunteers. I said, “No, because I’m frequently out of town. Here’s what I CAN do. Once a year I’ll give a free talk to rev up your volunteers. I’ll be donating a talent that most of your other members don’t have.” I was saying “yes” and “no” at the same time: “no” to the original request and “yes” to supporting the organization. No doubt they did not feel they could ask me for a free speech!

My pal Debbi Steele, an expert in hotel sales, faced a barrage of lunch invitations from those eager to peek behind the curtain of hotel sales. Her solution? A resolute “no” to lunch, with a side of creativity—either join her for a sunrise jog or spend an afternoon in the trenches of her office. The message? “No” doesn’t mean the end; it’s just a different beginning.

The Litmus Test Before “Yes”

Before your “yes” escapes into the wild, pause and ponder:

  • Is this endeavor something that sparks joy, or will it spark dread?
  • What’s in it for me? Will there be personal growth, or just personal grief?
  • Is this a now-or-never opportunity, or will it circle back?
  • Time is currency; how much am I willing to invest?
  • Am I the chosen one because of my unique talents, or because I’m known as the person who can’t say “no”?

If the answers leave you less than thrilled, it’s time to embrace “No, thank you, I already have plans.”

Embrace the “No” to Amplify Your “Yes”

In the grand tapestry of life and work, saying “no” is not just about guarding your time; it’s about making room for the “yeses” that truly matter. It’s about contributing in ways that leverage your unique strengths and passions.

So, the next time you’re cornered by a request that doesn’t light you up, remember: “no” is not just a word; it’s a strategy. Adopt the art of saying “no,” and you’ll find the freedom to say “yes” to what truly counts.

“Patricia, you saved the day! I was summoned on rather short notice to speak as a keynote speaker for our corporate annual sales conference.  My task was to relate technical details to a non-technical audience. Lucky for me, a week in advance I found FrippVT online learning. I worked tirelessly devouring the FrippVT content most evenings until 2 a.m. to perform at the highest level possible.

Can you imagine my excitement to walk off stage and hear, ‘You stole the show,’ ‘Are you a professional speaker?’ and ‘The audience was hanging onto your every word.’

“FrippVT saved the day! I was summoned on short notice to deliver a keynote speaker for our corporate annual sales conference. Having your wisdom, advice, and guidance 24/7 throughout my preparation gave me the information and confidence to wow the speaking engagement. Consider me your biggest fan.” Scott Lelii, Head of Digital & IT, Volvo Construction Equipment Sales Regions North & Latin America

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USA Today Don’t Quote Me

On Monday, January 22, several pals texted, “USA Today has used another of your quotes in their ‘Don’t Quote Me’ segment.”

It was “If you don’t act as if your name is on the door, it never will be.”

Consider this: every interaction your organization has with customers either strengthens or weakens your relationship. Especially each employee interaction, from the CEO to the technicians and maintenance crews. It’s a sobering thought, isn’t it?

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Last December, my show partner and fellow Hall of Fame speaker Marilyn Sherman and I had the pleasure of attending a Garth Brooks concert at the Colosseum at Caesars Palace—arguably the finest venue on the Las Vegas Strip.

The experience was not just a musical delight; it was a profound lesson in audience engagement, mirroring a habit I’ve cultivated over my decades as a speaker: being my own warm-up act.

Garth Brooks

Garth, with his charismatic presence, took to the stage, embodying what seasoned speakers and performers understand deeply—building rapport with your audience beforehand creates a more thrilling and impactful experience. He greeted the audience with a candid admission: “The sound is very different with people in the audience. This is going to sound very unprofessional!” This moment of vulnerability and authenticity had the crowd erupting in excitement. At that point, it was just Garth and his audience, no IMAG, no barriers, just a genuine connection.

He reminisced about his previous Vegas shows at the Wynn, which I also had the fortune to attend. Those shows, marked by their simplicity—just Garth and his guitar—left a lasting impression. Yet, this time, he promised something different with the presence of his band. However,  first, he wanted to express his gratitude. As the curtain lifted, revealing the band, the stage was set not just for a concert but for an unforgettable experience. The show lasted nearly two and a half hours, with the audience’s energy remaining sky-high throughout.

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After my LinkedIn posts about my Frippicisms™, Rich Ermlick wrote “You have more Zingers than Zig Ziglar.”

This brought back two wonderful memories I have not thought about in years.

Zig Ziglar motivational speaker.

In the early stages of my speaking career, I attended one of Zig’s Richer Life courses in Dallas. At that time, my reputation as a top men’s hairstylist preceded me. Zig, intrigued, asked if I would cut his hair. Delighted by the results, he insisted he take me to lunch. As we queued to pay—standing beside the most renowned speaker in the US, in his very hometown—the woman in line behind said, “Excuse me, aren’t you Patricia Fripp? Two months ago, I came to one of your hairstyling events in Lubbock, Texas.”

Zig’s mouth dropped. My comment was, “I told you I was famous.”

Fast forward a few years to Redding, California, where I was slated as the opening act for Zig in front of a two-thousand-strong audience. Post-performance, the atmosphere backstage was tense; Zig’s plane hadn’t landed. Facing the anxious promoter’s team, I declared, “Somebody better entertain them until Zig gets here, and I assume it is none of you.”

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My brother Robert Fripp played on David Bowie’s Heroes. One of the lines is “We can be heroes, just for one day.”

However, there are those in our midst who are heroes every day, for decades. If you were to ask my brother, “How do we become a hero?” Robert would tell you, “By performing acts of quality. Acts of quality are ungovernable by size. A small act of quality is as important to the world as a large act of quality.”

Celebrate everyday heroes

One of the reasons I was so excited to join the Golden Gate Breakfast Club twenty-four years ago, was because of the quality of the members. Many would be considered pillars of the community—judges, admirals, generals, entrepreneurs, and business leaders. Many were much older than I was, and that was the appeal. To be around people of quality. Heroes in their worlds; although, no doubt they would scoff at the suggestion.

In the bustling city of San Francisco, CA, on March 2, there was a celebration of a remarkable man. Les Andersen, at the venerable age of ninety, was honored for his extraordinary career with the Boys and Girls Clubs. This momentous occasion serves as a poignant reminder of the profound impact one individual can have on the lives of others, especially when dedicating their life to service and community improvement.

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The Unmatched Buzz of Being “Fripp the Sister”

Imagine the electrifying atmosphere of a concert, the anticipation in the air, fans buzzing with excitement. There I am, not on the stage, yet at the heart of it all—the merchandise table. Yes, you heard it right. While my career as a presentation skills expert is both exhilarating and fulfilling, nothing quite matches the adrenaline rush I get from being the “guest star merchandizer” at my brother Robert Fripp’s concerts.

Adventures in Merchandising: A Family Affair

Robert, an internationally acclaimed guitarist of King Crimson, and his business partner David Singleton are currently enchanting audiences on their Englishmen Abroad speaking tour. I had the joy of joining them in Santa Cruz, Sacramento, and San Francisco.

Picture this: the crowd’s anticipation building, there I was saying, “Welcome music fans. Can I help you with your merchanting opportunities? Tell your friends Robert Fripp’s sister took your money.” The moment Robert introduces me—“Our guest star merchandizer, my sister Patricia Fripp”—and the crowd erupts, that’s when I feel an indescribable buzz.

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When you have regular access to thought-provoking speakers, in the same meeting with interesting audience members, your life will be greatly improved.

We are all familiar with the expression, “If you want something done, give it to a busy person!” Which leads to a new non-paying, volunteer position.

I accepted the position of president for the Golden Gate Breakfast Club (GGBC). The GGBC was founded in 1946. Our website proclaims, “Come meet people who look at the world from the ‘Sunny-Side Up!’”  For decades members have met weekly to interact with each other and hear fascinating speakers. Our members are from various industries, and we benefit from a mixture of ambitious professionals and some active retirees. We are all lifelong learners.

In a world where knowledge is the cornerstone of progress, the convergence of ambitious professionals and active retirees in meetings featuring thought-provoking speakers is a catalyst for unparalleled growth and learning. Three times a month we meet in Zoom, which gives us access to members and speakers from around the globe.

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For sixteen years, the brilliant speaker, author, and consultant Alan Weiss, PhD and I delivered seminars together called The Odd Couple.

One technique I learned from Alan, and have continued to use, is the practice of asking, “And your question is?”

How often, in the Q&A portion of a presentation, have you felt like pulling your hair out because someone is droning on before they ask a question?

And Your Question Is

In 2022, my brother guitarist Robert Fripp and his business partner David Singleton were on a speaking tour on the East Coast of Canada and the US. Their final performance was in Chicago. I attended with my good friend and fellow speaker, Bob Roitblat.

All was going wonderfully well until at 9:55 p.m. when my brother said, “We now have five minutes and three people to ask their question.”

The next fan standing at the center microphone spent fourteen minutes waffling on about every King Crimson and solo Fripp album he had and every performance, city, and year he had seen a show. All before he got to his question. I was in agony. I kept saying to Bob and the other fans next to us, “And your question is?” I wanted to stand on my chair and shout those four simple words.

However, I was concerned my brother would tell me off! Or, I might ruin the evening for him. Although I am certain I would have received applause from the other fans!

As Robert and David will be touring the West Coast in February and March for their Gentlemen Aboard speaking tour, I finally got up the nerve to mention this experience to Brother. Then asked, “Would you have been upset?”

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