Patricia Fripp Blog

For sixteen years, the brilliant speaker, author, and consultant Alan Weiss, PhD and I delivered seminars together called The Odd Couple.

One technique I learned from Alan, and have continued to use, is the practice of asking, “And your question is?”

How often, in the Q&A portion of a presentation, have you felt like pulling your hair out because someone is droning on before they ask a question?

In 2022, my brother guitarist Robert Fripp and his business partner David Singleton were on a speaking tour on the East Coast of Canada and the US. Their final performance was in Chicago. I attended with my good friend and fellow speaker, Bob Roitblat.

All was going wonderfully well until at 9:55 p.m. when my brother said, “We now have five minutes and three people to ask their question.”

The next fan standing at the center microphone spent fourteen minutes waffling on about every King Crimson and solo Fripp album he had and every performance, city, and year he had seen a show. All before he got to his question. I was in agony. I kept saying to Bob and the other fans next to us, “And your question is?” I wanted to stand on my chair and shout those four simple words.

However, I was concerned my brother would tell me off! Or, I might ruin the evening for him. Although I am certain I would have received applause from the other fans!

As Robert and David will be touring the West Coast in February and March for their Gentlemen Aboard speaking tour, I finally got up the nerve to mention this experience to Brother. Then asked, “Would you have been upset?”

Academy Award speeches are not the best examples of great acceptance speeches. There are, however, many unforgettable moments.

Here you will find my second list of favorite Oscar segments. We will look to see why. Learn from Hollywood

Oscar examples that make the speech bigger than the recipient.

Meryl Streep, Best Actress, The Iron Lady, said, “This is such an honor. But the thing that counts the most with me is the friendships, and the love, and the sheer joy we have shared making movies together.”

Steven Soderbergh, Best Director, Traffic, said, “I want to thank anyone who spends part of their day creating. I don’t care if it’s a book, a film, a painting, a dance, a piece of theatre, or a piece of music. Anybody who spends part of their day sharing their experience with us. I think the world would be unlivable without art.”

Accepting an award is like walking a tightrope.

You need to be gracious, grateful, and humble, yet not so humble or self-deprecating that the audience thinks you are trivializing the honor. In general, Academy Award speeches are not the best examples of great acceptance speeches.

There are, however, many unforgettable moments.

Fripp presentation about Life Lessons from Movie Stars and Hollywood

A few of my personal favorites:

When Russell Crowe won an Oscar for The Gladiator (2000), he dedicated it to “Everyone who has seen the downside of disadvantage.” Then he won the 2002 Golden Globe Award for A Beautiful Mind. First, he gave credit to the characters in the film, offering special thanks to “John and Alicia Nash, for living such an inspirational love story.” He added, “A Beautiful Mind is just a movie, folks, but hopefully it will help us open our hearts to believe that something extraordinary can always happen in our lives.” Wow! His use of alliteration ‘downside of disadvantage’ makes my toes tingle and my eyes water.

It’s okay to be excited. The audience is on your side.

Sally Field’s joy when she won the 1979 Academy Award for Norma Rae has never been forgotten: “You like me! You really like me!”

And when she won the 1987 Oscar for Moonstruck, Cher said, “I know this does not mean I am somebody, but I am on my way to becoming somebody.”

Sales Presentations Skills Training is a Great Idea

Imagine the impact if your team’s sales presentations are not just good… they were magnetic. This is not a far-fetched dream; it’s a very achievable reality.

The Challenge: A Common Hurdle in Sales

Not long ago, a prospect called and said, “Help! My team’s presentations are terrible. We do not consistently tell the same story, and our company has set ambitious goals for this year. I heard from a colleague that you can help.”

This wasn’t just about improving their slide deck. It was about transforming their entire approach to communication.

The Solution: Tailored and Effective

I suggested a simple yet impactful strategy that works for my best clients. “Let me hear your core presentation, and I’ll offer my suggestions and recommendations. If you like them, we can improve your presentation and then teach that to your team members.” This led to an eye-opening meeting. Larry delivered his best presentation, and as promised, I suggested how it could be more impactful.

Each year, on January 18th, I find myself pondering with a blend of celebration and introspection.

This date marks a pivotal moment in my life, a day that set the course for an extraordinary journey.

Robert and Patricia Fripp on the way to the Majestic

The First Glimpse of a New World

Decades ago, as a young 20-year-old, I vividly recall peering through the porthole of my room on the USS United States. My eyes caught the first light of dawn illuminating the Statue of Liberty. That iconic symbol of freedom and hope was my welcome to a new country, a new life. With just $500 in my pocket, no job, and no contacts, I stepped into the vast unknown. Or as I considered, a great adventure.

A Post-War British Perspective

Reflecting back, I realize that my departure from Britain was during a time when the nation was still healing from the scars of World War II. My experience with America was limited to what was depicted in movies. I firmly believed that in America everyone was rich and the streets were paved with movie stars! Naïve and optimistic, I never considered the possibility of failure – a mindset that served me well. It was nice to know, if I was ever without money or unhappy, my father would send me a ticket to go back. It was a source of pride, that once I left home at 18, I never asked my parents for money.

Take the money when customers want to give it.

As a presentation skills expert, I’m often asked, “Where do I find good stories and examples for my presentations?”

The answer lies in our everyday experiences. Here are a couple from my own journey, focusing on the important role of customer service.

Consider this: every interaction your organization has with customers either strengthens or weakens your relationship. This includes every letter, ad, phone call, and especially each employee interaction, from the CEO to the technicians and maintenance crews. It’s a sobering thought, isn’t it?

Do you hold the position, earn the salary, or command the respect you believe you deserve?

If not, I encourage you to dress and speak for the role you aspire to, not merely the one you currently have.

When I was growing up, my mother gave me great advice. “Patricia, of course, it is the inner you that is most important. However, you have to dress up and look good so that you can attract others. They will then discover how nice and smart you are and how you can be of value to them.” This principle, emphasized by my mother and echoed through the annals of Hollywood, remains as relevant today as ever.

Hollywood’s history is rich with icons like Edith Head, an eight-time Academy Award winner for Costume Design. Her work in classics such as The Heiress and All About Eve shaped the visual language of an era. Edith said, “You can have everything you want as long as you dress for it!”

As we stride into 2024, it’s crucial to recognize the impact of recency bias – the tendency to overemphasize recent experiences or the latest information when forecasting future events. This bias can skew our expectations, leading us to believe that the near past is a mirror of what’s to come. However, there’s an alternative viewpoint worth considering, inspired by a memorable experience from my past.

Rewind to my avid running days in the scenic Marina District of San Francisco. One Sunday morning, I found myself jogging alongside David, a psychiatrist, and my running partner. Our route took us from the vibrant Marina Green to the iconic Golden Gate Bridge and back, immersed in the breathtaking beauty of the bay. Just another heavenly day in San Francisco.

Patricia at the time of her first management seminar

As a budding entrepreneur embarking on my journey with my upscale men’s hairstyling salon, I vividly remember attending my first management seminar. This was, of course, many moons ago, yet one statement from that day has stayed with me:

‘Your business is as good as your worst employee.’ Quite the alarming thought, isn’t it?

Fast forward to my days as a keynote speaker, I had the honor of sharing the stage with the iconic broadcaster, Paul Harvey. His words, much like the ones from my seminar days, left a lasting impression. He said, ‘For a company’s advertising strategy to work, it has to be handled both corporately and individually.’

Every member of your team must understand the significance of customer service in your business.

Get ahead in your career — Keynote speaker and speech coach Patricia Fripp reminds us that opportunity is everywhere.

Want Success? You Never Know Where Your Next Big Break Is Coming From!

A Blast from the Past

Frippicism® Opportunity does not knock once. It knocks all the time we do not always recognize the sound.

Earlier in my speaking career, I was mostly a keynote speaker. Recently, I was having fun reviewing a couple of the examples I told decades ago!

Early in the career of TV host, Joan Lunden received great advice from Barbara Walters.

“Take every crumb they throw you and handle them magnificently.”

Expert Advice about Presentation Skills
from Patricia Fripp

And Your Question Is?

One technique I learned from Alan, and have continued to use, is the practice of asking, “And your question is?”

All was going wonderfully well until at 9:55 p.m. when my brother said, “We now have five minutes and three people to ask their question.”

Crafting a Winning Oscar Speech: Why Every Word Counts

Oscar examples that make the speech bigger than the recipient.