Grit Matters – Your Journey from Ordinary to Extraordinary

Grit to Great bookFor most people, even with natural talent, there is no such thing as overnight success. More often, success is a result of something my brother, Robert Fripp calls “discipline.”  In case you didn’t know, Robert is a legendary guitarist who is included on Rolling Stone magazine’s list of “100 Greatest Guitarists” of all time – so he knows something about success. As an executive speech coach and Hall of Fame keynote speaker, people ask me, “Can I become good enough to get paid to speak?” My response is, “I guarantee you do not lack the talent to do this. You might lack the patience. Learn to love the process.” This approach to success can also be called “grit.” Robin Koval and Linda Kaplan Thaler have just released a book on the undeniable power of grit. A few years ago, I was delighted when they included one of my stories in their bestselling book, The Power of Small. I share this excerpt from their newly released Grit to Great: How Perseverance, Passion, And Pluck Take You From Ordinary To Extraordinary with you: (more…)

Robert Fripp Shares The Steps to Take to Go from Beginner to Mastery

Robert Fripp Rehearsing with Andy Summers, From a BBC Documentary on Robert Fripp

Robert Fripp Rehearsing with Andy Summers – from the BBC Documentary on Robert Fripp

My brother, Robert Fripp, is the subject of a fascinating BBC documentary. Though he wouldn’t describe himself this way – he is truly a legendary guitarist and included on Rolling Stone’s list of 100 Greatest Guitarists.

Have you ever wanted to get up close and personal with Robert Fripp?

Are you curious about what he really thinks of life as a musician, the steps to take to go from beginner to mastery, and the responsibility of a musician and the audience for the quality of a musical performance?

Would you like to hear him tell his stories about having Jimi Hendrix say, “Shake my left hand, man; it’s closer to my heart.”? (more…)

What Do Cutting Hair And Writing A Speech Have in Common?

Patricia Fripp Hall of Fame Speaker with Her Brother Robert Fripp Guitarist

Patricia Fripp Speaking with Her Brother, Legendary Guitarist, Robert Fripp

Hall of Fame Speaker, in-demand speech coach, and former hairstylist, Patricia Fripp learns a valuable principle from her brother, King Crimson guitarist, Robert Fripp…

What Do Cutting Hair And Writing A Speech Have in Common?

One day, after I had retired as a hairstylist, I was cutting my brother’s hair, and he said, “Sister, you really are the best hairstylist I’ve ever had. You’re probably one of the best hairstylists in the world.” I said, “Well, I don’t know about that, but when I was teaching people to cut hair, I told them, ‘It doesn’t matter if you’ve had 20 years of experience, you still have to show me that you can cut the basic haircut. You take the first cut, the guideline, and you match; you balance the whole haircut around the guide. Then you do the lining and the edgings, and then you add the magic. You run your fingers through the client’s hair, and it will talk to you and tell you how to personalize it for that haircut.’”

“The way I taught stylists to cut hair is exactly the way I teach people to create a speech. Your first cut is your premise, your central theme. (more…)

Public Speaking – Are You Afraid of Failure?

Legendary Guitarist, Robert Fripp with Guitar

Legendary Guitarist, Robert Fripp (My Brother)

My brother, the legendary guitarist Robert Fripp says that with music as with speaking, “When you do something well, everyone says, ‘Oh, he’s a natural.’ ‘Oh, she doesn’t have to worry; this comes naturally.’ However, even when it appears effortlesseven with natural talent – you still need the discipline of following the process and doing the work.”

Sometimes “following the process” means pushing through experiences that feel like complete failures. My friend, Sims Wyeth, author of The Essentials of Persuasive Public Speaking, offers this perspective to help you better handle moments of “failure” in your public speaking:

Fail Your Way to Success
by Sims Wyeth (more…)